Am I being abused-cooking question?

My fiance and I got into an argument because he was home before I was (I already took the food out to defrost). He was mad at me because I didnt have dinner ready and not on a plate for him. then he insisted on telling me no one cooks rice first. It is a constant issue with food. He is home before me and he does not cook..he waits for me to come home to cook. Hes the one that went to culinary school..wtf